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Personal Values And Christian Dating

A lot of people looking for love tend to overlook what is important. More often than not, they merely look for someone to love and that’s it .As Christians it is important to remember your values when Christian dating.

You see, many people looking for love want passion, romance and the feeling of being secure. Others who know better likewise look for a true love who will be there for the rest of their lives and share their personal values.

Sometimes however, looking for love can be quite “automatic”. You see someone you’re attracted to, you get to know them and voila! Things go well and the two of you become an “item”. After a while though, things go sour. Fights begin and harsh words are hurled in all directions. Unfortunately, some couples can’t take the pressure and break up. The reason? Incompatibility. They just didn’t see eye to eye on certain issues. More often than not, it is the “vital issues” that caused the falling out.

Personal values are an integral part of any relationship. These values refer to what a person holds dear, what they consider important in their lives. Religion, family, friends, career, and so on. It is hard enough making a relationship work. It becomes a lot harder when the same two people don’t agree on the important things in life.

Take for instance a Christian couple. They go to the same Church, attend service together and seem like they’re happy. A lot of people would assume then that they’ve got it made. Unfortunately, things aren’t as rosy as they seem. The lady considers her religion, her family, career, and so on as her “treasured” values. She is a firm believer in the sanctity of marriage. The bloke on the other hand has the same list of priorities. The problem is that his are a bit mixed up. Work and friends are placed before his family. And infidelity is taken lightly. The poor missus however, is clueless about what is going on–for now. It’s like a bomb ticking away, waiting to explode.

Of course simply holding the same religious views does not make you an ideal couple. This is opposed to a couple who don’t share the same religion. He’s Christian and she’s a Jew. Think they’re doomed? Hold your horses and allow us finish. The difference between them and the previous couple is that their priorities are a perfect match. Moreover, they hold as Sacred the exact same values. And this keeps them together no matter what storms life may bring.

What we’re trying to say here is that it doesn’t matter from where you are, what background you have, and so on. Of course, these play a vital role in making you the person you are. As a couple however, the two of you need to share the same values in order to face whatever comes your way. It is these crucial moments that matter most.

So when looking for love, it wouldn’t be a bad idea to know their personal values. Doing so can spell the difference between a lifetime of happiness and one that ends up in heartache.

Where To I Begin Christian Dating?

Many single men and women want to try online Christian dating. They have heard that such a way of meeting people can do wonders to their love life.
This is fantastic news for the millions of Christians who are already members of online dating websites. It proves that these people were not wrong in taking a gamble on signing up for these services.
The problem is that many people who sign up are not sure where online dating really starts. Is it in creating a profile? Is it in examining oneself to see what kind of mate and relationship they are after? Online dating can begin with both these steps. You have to know what you want in order to create a winning and honest profile. The question however, is: where do you post that profile? This, ladies and gentlemen, is where online dating all starts. Select the online dating website to join. You need to know what kind of online dating website suits your fancy. While it is true that there are millions of online dating sites out there, you can narrow your search to two basic types that cater to the different singleton markets. These online dating sites include:
The ‘one size fits all’ brands: Such sites are, as the name suggests, what online dating sites are to designer jeans. There are a lot of sites that have become so popular that they are now considered the big names in the industry. Many people use them and find their partner however many people have signed up on a fishing trip to see whats out there.
The specialised sites: As the name suggests, such online dating sites are where you will find the kind of people you want to be with. These sites focus on a certain niche. There are sites for a certain religion or hobby. It is entirely up to you what suits your taste. Are you a Christian for instance, who is looking for someone who shares your faith? This is the place for you.
Bear in mind that not all online dating websites are created equal. You need to study each one’s features in order to get the most out of what you are paying for. So be a smart online Christian dating website user and choose your online Christian dating site wisely. It can spell the difference between finding the love of your life and ending up with some perverted individual.

Tips on Dating a Christian

If you frequent the dating scene in your locale, it’s not uncommon to meet and eventually go on a date with a Christian.
Assuming you are not one yourself, this may pose some difficulties for you. After all, the common idea is that Christians are more reserved and act conservatively. While this may be true, it should not hinder you from going out with the woman you fancy. Here are a few ideas that might help you on your date with a Christian:

1. Take her where you usually go on dates. Devout Christians don’t smoke or drink. However, this doesn’t mean that they aren’t allowed to go to pubs or nightspots. You are in your best element if you are in your territory. Besides, she would want to meet the real you, not the one you think she will like. Don’t be afraid to be yourself. Dating a Christian will not be fun if you have to change who you are.

2. Be aware of her beliefs and show that you respect them. While you are not expected to agree with her beliefs, you would not want to accidentally step on them when out on a date. You don’t even have to talk about religion. Just make sure that the date runs smoothly by not offending the person you’re dating.

3. Find out about the activities she enjoys and do them with her. Christians do more than just pray and stay at home. They also love to have good, clean fun. Doing the things she enjoys when dating not only shows that you care, but also shows that you want to get to know her world; something that will definitely impress her.

Come to think of it, dating a Christian isn’t so much different from dating other types of people. She may be from a different race, country, and yes, religion, but the tips mentioned above will work for any kind of person. If you take into account the suggested ideas, then it won’t matter what kind of person you’re dating because you are sure to impress her.

More importantly, if you think about it, Christians aren’t so much different from non-Christians. The woman you are dating maybe a Christian, but first and foremost she is a human being. Treat her with respect, show your true self, and eventually you’ll get the girl. Happy dating

Rekindling Your Romance This Valentine’s Day

Rekindling Your Romance
Valentine’s Day is the ideal opportunity to remind your partner how much they mean to you
If you’ve been in a relationship for a while, you’ll have noticed how easily you slip from passion and romance into settled everyday life. A celebration like Valentine’s Day is a great time to remind yourselves why you got together in the first place. Valentine’s treats are becoming expensive, but you don’t need to spend a fortune to show how you feel – a little thoughtfulness and creativity can go a long way. Try some of these in the run-up to February 14th:

Spontaneity

Come home with a treat for you both – a good movie, a box of chocolates or a trip out to the nearest pizza restaurant. Unexpected gestures are good for everyone and give you a chance to tell your partner why they’re important to you.

Love Notes

It might sound corny, but leaving a note under a coffee cup or stuck to the bathroom mirror to say how much you love someone takes no time at all and always brings a smile to their face. If they travel a lot, put a note or a card in their suitcase, so it’s the first thing they see when they unpack. If they leave for work before you in the morning, put a note in their car the night before. It doesn’t have to be often, but it’s one of those things that’s as good to give as it is to receive.

Hugs

In our opinion, hugs are severely under-rated. It’s amazing how little we hug and kiss once we’re in an established relationship. Make the time to show each other and those around you how great you feel when you’re together.

Talk

Couples often say that when they’ve been together for a while, they can tell what the other person’s thinking and they don’t need to talk. In fact, the longer you’re together, the more important it is that you find time to talk. Busy lives mean that you can’t spend hours discussing deep thoughts, but you can take the time to ask how your partner is feeling and what their opinions are on various topics – things that affect your relationship as well as general topics of conversation. Make time to talk.

Valentine’s Day may be just around the corner, but you can make your partner feel special on any day of the year.

Be Yourself When Christian Dating

A lot of singles know that Christian dating can be quite cumbersome. No, we’re not implying that Christian dating is a chore. But whether one admits it or not, it can be a little bit of a struggle finding a date sometimes.

Think about it. How long have you been Christian dating? Chances are, you’ve gone to so many parties and pubs. And most likely, you’ve had a few dates on occasion. But that’s just it. They just didn’t work out.

So here you are, back to square one in the whole Christian dating game. Not to worry old boy. You can still find a mate while going about your daily routine. What? Have you gone mad, you ask? No, we’re serious. Try some of the following:

  1. First of all, examine yourself. What could be the reason for all those past relationships not working out? While you may assert that they just weren’t “the one”, there is more to it than that. Learn from your past mistakes and make a firm resolve not to commit them again.
  2. Change your outlook in life. So you’ve had a few bad dates. We all have. Don’t let these setbacks discourage you from moving forward. Not all dates are meant to turn out the wrong way. You will hit it off sometime soon. Just be patient. And think positive.
  3. Get to know yourself. Before you meet other people, why not get to know yourself first. This is really the best place to start. Know what you like as well as what you don’t like. Know the real you. And accept him or her. People who aren’t comfortable with themselves will have a hard time accepting others.
  4. Get out more. There are numerous places to see. Now is the perfect time to see them. And why not be with the best companion you can have – yourself.
  5. While you’re out there, keep your eyes open for possible dates. No, we’re not saying that’s all you should do. But when you do see one, don’t let the opportunity pass you by. Subtle flirting techniques as well as polite yet interesting “ice breakers” will definitely come in handy.
  6. Remember that the whole point of this exercise is to fit it into your lifestyle. This means that you need not go far to find a potential date. Go about your usual routine. If you like going to the gym for instance, then start there. There are lots of interesting men and women at the gym. And the common interest will give you something to talk about during those crucial first minutes.
  7. Have you ever wanted to learn something new? Now is the time. Not only will you be enriching your knowledge, you may just find the love of your life here.

Remember that Christian dating need not be a struggle. All it takes is being yourself. No matter who you are.

New Year, New Christian Dating Profile

Updating your Christian Dating profile is an important first step in the dating game

For each Christian dating service you join, you will have to write a paragraph or two about yourself. This is the information that your potential dates will read, and the way your write it can make the difference between lots of responses and none at all. If you’ve never tried writing a personal ad before, or your previous ads haven’t generated much of a response, try using these useful hints next time round:

  •  Make a list

Before you begin writing, make a list of the things that are most important to you. Split it into two sections; words that describe you and what you are interested in, and words that describe what you’re looking for in a Christian date. Use these lists as the basis for your profile and remember to focus on the things you do like rather than the things you don’t.

  • About you

What are you interested in? Theatre, music, football, cars, running – whatever it is that makes you who you are. Focus on things that you can do with your date – going to gigs, Saturday night clubbing, sailing or walking. These all give an indication of the type of person you are and the fact that you want to attract a Christian date who shares your passions.

  • About them

This is your chance to say what you’re looking for. Whether you specify height, age, smoker or non-smoker or the interests you’d like to share, you need to be sure that the descriptions you use will attract the sort of interest you’re after.

  • Sell yourself

Your profile is your own personal sales brochure. Use it to tell people what you have to offer and why they should get in touch with you. Whilst you don’t want to tell all at such an early stage in the dating process, you need to give enough information to spark some interest, and hold back enough to make them want to know more. Use positive language and maybe even some humour to encourage a response.

  • Draft and check

Never just write a profile off the top of your head and stick it online. Always write a draft and then ask someone you trust to read it and make comments. You’re not an objective observer here, so choose someone who knows you, knows what you want and will tell you honestly if your profile reads well.

  • Post it!

Once you’re happy that your profile sells you well, and is asking for the right people to respond, post it, sit back and wait for those potential Christian dates to flood in!

Keep Warm While Christian Dating This New Year

Christian dating can be a hassle for a lot couples, particularly during the winter months. No, there isn’t anything wrong with dating during this time of the year. It’s just that the cold weather tends to make long walks and even going out itself a bit of a chore.

Yes, the chill does put a damper on Christian dating for most of couples. This is especially true if you’re used to going out for a picnic or if you love the great outdoors. The freezing temperatures and all that rain can leave you out in the cold, literally.

You do not have to worry if you and your partner happen to find yourselves in such a predicament. You can still have fun Christian dating while keeping warm. Here are a few dating ideas for the winter months:

- Dancing On Ice: One of the best-loved TV shows is always an excellent idea at this time of the year. You and your loved one can cuddle up while watching your favourite performers do their famous moves.

- If you want to be in the thick of the action, you can go ice-skating instead. The two of you can go down to your neighbourhood skating rink and skate to your heart’s content. Don’t know how to skate you say? This is as good a time as ever to learn, right?

- Remember that the holidays are about giving. Christmas may be over but as Christian’s you know that it is important to live the true spirit of the season the whole year through. Helping out at your local homeless shelter or give a few gifts or some used clothing to some needy children. Cook a meal and help out at their soup kitchen. This is a fabulous way for you and your significant other to share all the blessings you’ve received the past year.

- Stay indoors and throw your own private celebration. Has the past year found the two of you looking for that much-needed quality time together? This is the perfect time for that. You can cook your favourite dishes, throw in a bottle of wine and have a candlelit dinner, just the two of you. The warm fireplace can serve as an after-dinner treat as you and your love and snuggle close while keeping warm.

The aforementioned ideas show you that the winter chill need not dampen your Christian dating experience. Remember that you do not have to go on your regular routine to call it a date. The essentials of dating are you, your partner, and the two of you spending quality time together – wherever you are, whatever you do. Have fun!

Christian Dating, New Year 2013

The start of the New Year is exactly the right time to think about Christian dating again.

New year is the time for new resolutions; dusting yourself down and making a new start. If you’re serious about having fun this year, and maybe being part of a serious relationship by next Christmas, then you need to start looking for some new dates.

 Where better to look than an online dating service which specializes in Christian dating ? An increasing number of people are going online in an effort to find a date, and most of them are being rewarded with a wide range of people to choose from. What’s more, the numbers of serious, long-term relationships that have developed from online dating services are growing too, which is another reason why you should get online today.

What do you want?

 Before you join a dating service, make sure you know what you want. Defining the types of people you want to meet and the sorts of relationships you want to have will also partly decide which dating websites you choose. With a dating service like MatchMeNowChristian, you can choose from thousands of Christian members, and spend time chatting online or emailing before you meet in person. If you don’t have any luck first time round, then just keep browsing, or take a couple of weeks off and then come back and try again. The site is here for you to enjoy and make the most of, so take your time and the dating rewards could be coming your way.

 Choosing a Dating Service

 When you are browsing online, pay attention to the site you’re using. How user friendly is it? Is all the information you want available? Does it tell you how much it costs to join the service? What does it tell you about security and protection whilst your dating online? Does it give you help and advice on using the site and dating in general? And does it cater for the sort of dates you’re looking for? Does it specialize in Christian dating? You must feel comfortable with the site and the services it offers.

 The most important thing to remember is that you’re looking for a date, or at least for some new people to meet. Once you’ve decided to take the plunge and browse through dating service members, you’ll be surprised by how easy and attractive online dating is. Try it today and enjoy your new year of Christian dating!

Wishing all Christian Singles A Very Happy Christmas

Is Christmas a happy time for Christian singles? Certainly Christmas is special for Christians but we also recognise that holidays can be a difficult and sometimes  a lonely time of year for singles who would rather be in a committed relationship.

At this time of year we all seem to be so very busy. It is very easy to get preoccupied with trying to find the perfect present for Grandma or queuing for sprouts to go with the turkey for Christmas dinner. Remember to make time to relax, don’t be tempted to turn down the invitations to the festive social events. You never know who you might meet and widening your social circle is a great way to meet more Christian singles.

Many of us take time off work over Christmas and many dating websites see a rise in the number of people joining at this time of year. If you would like to share your turkey and tinsel with a special Christian single in 2013 , then treat yourself to a membership and start dating people like you this New Year.

Merry Christmas from all the team at MatchMeNowChristian.

 

 

Cara & Paul’s Dating Experience

The pressure was really high leading up to the first date. We both felt as if we had so much to lose if for any reason the first meeting did not go as hoped . We had invested so much time writing ,texting and speaking to each other on the phone it was like we knew everything about the other person. We were already such integral part of each others lives.

We quickly scheduled follow up dates and before we knew it seeing each other daily was a necessity. While it is all very fast nothing has felt easier or more natural. We have both truly found the person intended for us for the rest of our lives.

Cara & Paul