Christian Dating someone means knowing and accepting the person for who he or she is. This would mean things like family background, educational attainment, career, and his or her views or life’s more “vital issues”.
|One aspect worth taking into consideration is Religious Background. With so many people practising different religions, it is inevitable that you will date someone with a different religion from yours. While this may easily be overlooked at the onset, it has to be given some serious thought especially if marriage is a part of your future plan.
So what issues need to be ironed out when it comes to religious differences?
First of all, you need to ask the question: How important is it to you? Are you comfortable marrying someone who practises a different religion? If you’re dating, you would most likely have an “ideal man” (or woman). Does religion rank at the top of your list? Or is it even there at all? Do you want your future spouse to share the same Faith as yours? And remember to be honest when answering.
Although these questions may be “fundamental” to some, keep in mind that a lot of people live their lives according to their faith. This means that they would practise certain virtues or avoid some things. Things which they consider “vices”-although to you, it isn’t Why not observe how they live. And ask yourself if you’re okay with it.
And although you’ve made a “list” of what you want in a life partner, remember that this is hardly followed. Think about it: have you ever known anyone to follow that list to the letter? Chances are that they made an exception for at least one item. This is because choosing a mate involves using both your head and your heart. It’s a balance between the two. Most women for example say they want someone who is “tall, dark and handsome”. But many of these same women end up with the opposite. This is because they saw something special in the man they married.
The same holds true for religion. Know whether or not you’re comfortable with the religious difference. If the difference makes you do things like “justify this to your family”, then think twice.
And think about your future children. What religion will they be practising? Would this be a problem for the both of you? This is assuming of course that neither of you is going to “convert” to either one’s religion in the near future.
Bottom line: Get to know the person you’re dating. And learn to look at the entire person and not just the parts.